Navigating College: Surviving Grocery Store Run ins and Existential Dread

Ah, college. It’s often hailed as the time of your life—at least that’s what everyone loves to remind you when you’re back home for the holidays. You know the drill: “How’s school? What are you doing with your life? Any plans for internships? Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?” Meanwhile, you’re just trying to survive, and grab some nutella.

Listen, it’s totally fine if college isn’t living up to the hype. Yes, you get to eat ice cream for breakfast and stay up way too late with friends, but it’s also a time full of stress, confusion, and more than a few sleepless nights. You don’t have to be living your best life 24/7 to have a valuable experience.

The Myth of "The Best Time of Your Life"

We’ve all heard it—the notion that college is supposed to be the BEST time of your life. But here’s the thing: when you’re trying to juggle classes, social life, and the ever-looming question of your future, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling short. If things aren’t perfect, it’s easy to think you’re doing something wrong.

College is a super weird time where you are contemplating your own existence and purpose. That is a lot of pressure! Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong or missing out. I was so stressed out in college trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, and spoiler alert I didn’t figure it out until years after graduation. I majored in Microbiology, and now I’m a therapist…

Social Anxiety

Now let’s talk about social stressors. Walking into a packed lecture hall or trying to make small talk at a party can feel like climbing a mountain. The truth is, a lot of students deal with this. You’re not alone if the thought of mingling makes your stomach drop. Stop telling yourself you are awkward and judging everything that comes out of your mouth…yes this is easier said than done.

Finding your crowd might take time, and that’s perfectly normal. It’s all about figuring out where you feel comfortable and being kind to yourself along the way.

Financial Pressures: The Stress No One Talks About

Let’s talk money. Between tuition, rent, and that ever-growing pile of textbooks, finances can feel like a dark cloud hanging over you. It’s real, and it’s stressful. Watching your bank account dwindle after a trip to the bookstore can feel like a punch to the gut.

Financial stress is something a lot of students face, and it’s okay to admit that it’s tough. Whether you’re working part-time or juggling loans, it’s a lot to manage. Just know you’re not alone, and there are resources out there to help navigate these challenges.

Loneliness and Relationships: It’s Complicated

Despite being surrounded by people, it’s easy to feel lonely in college. Friendships can be tough to maintain, especially when everyone’s caught up in their own schedules. And when it comes to dating? Well, let’s just say it can be a bit of a circus.

Dating in college is like stepping into a weird reality show. You’re figuring it out alongside everyone else, and sometimes it feels like a game of trial and error. It’s normal to feel confused about relationships, and it’s okay to take a break if you need it. You don’t have to be in a relationship to validate your worth or happiness and you don’t have to have the same type of relationships as your friends.

The Reality of College Life

Between late-night study sessions, trying to maintain social connections, and juggling everything life throws at you, it’s no wonder college can feel overwhelming. It’s not all about parties and late-night pizza (though those moments definitely have their place). It’s about finding your path, navigating challenges, and growing into the person you’re meant to be.

So here’s the deal: it’s okay if college isn’t everything you thought it would be. Your mental health matters just as much as your grades or social life. Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling, whether that’s stressed, excited, or anything in between.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, know that talking it out can really help—whether you’re dealing with anxiety, ADHD, stress, or relationship drama. Most schools offer affordable therapy programs, so definitely check those out. And hey, if you’re in Colorado, I’m offering student sessions for just $75. It’s all about finding the support that works for you, so don’t hesitate to reach out!